For the sake of making a point, I have to admit something: I’m on a dating website. There, I said it. Now, moving on – know what gets my attention more than anything and makes me want to engage in some online flirting? If he’s vegan!
Just like the real world, vegans in cyberland are rare, but there is a certain allure to those elusive fellows who do exist. And then there’s the whole swoon factor of meeting vegan men in the flesh or drooling over hot vegan celebrities.
I’d be lying if I said I haven’t planned a few vegan weddings in my mind already. It’s true that for us vegan women, vegan men are enticing, but just what is all the attraction about? Let’s look at just what makes our vegan male friends so sexy.
Vegan men are independent thinkers
From the time we are very young, the majority of us are indoctrinated through culture, family traditions, media, and social institutions that eating meat is part of what it means to live in today’s society. Not only that, but the idea that ‘eating and cooking meat is manly’ is widely perpetuated: men in charge of the barbecue and men cooking steaks are images easily conjured for most of us. We see this so frequently in advertisements, and even growing up in our own homes that if left unchecked, the linking of manliness with meat becomes integrated into our beliefs system.
Given that we tend to equate meat eating with machismo, it takes a special sort of person to transcend these deeply ingrained primitive beliefs. Vegan men’s integrity and commitment to their values, despite the fact that they may be seen as ‘less than’ by society, is nothing short of sexy, and who better to recognize this than us vegan women who have gone against the grain of what is considered normal ourselves? Additionally, refusing to adhere to societal values that we should have long outgrown makes vegan men forward thinkers and has an almost rebel-like quality. And what’s not at least a little bit sexy about a rebel?
Compassion is HOT
Research is now showing that we are hard-wired for compassion.If such were the case, we would expect more of us to be vegan, as true compassion is not species-specific. Unfortunately, desensitization can be all encompassing, and over time can undermine our compassion. When we manage to escape the shackles of this desensitization to the cruelty we inflict on animals, we open to our innate compassion, which is inherently boundless. What is sexier than seeing the very compassion you hold in your heart being exemplified by a vegan man? And if you’re not following my drift, imagine, for a moment, a sexy vegan man down on all fours, fully engaged in play and care with animals at a farm sanctuary. Can we say swoon?
Shared Values and Interests
Opposites attract? Sure, some of us good-girls may be drawn to the bad boy type but that’s only because he’s modeling an aspect of ourselves that we’ve disowned. Being attracted to what is called in psychology our ‘disowned selves,’ those aspects of our personality that we’ve repressed since childhood, may be unavoidable but is typically unhealthy. This is because we may be looking to our partner to express that hidden part of ourselves.
Consequently, opposites may initially attract but what truly binds is common values.
When we seriously reflect on what it is we want in a relationship, it’s obvious that we desire a mate whose beliefs around ethics, health and the environment are in alignment with are own. Plus, what vegan girl doesn’t want a boyfriend/ husband who will enjoy sharing delicious vegan meals and know which products are vegan friendly when birthdays and the holidays roll around?
If we were to conduct a poll, I’m one hundred percent sure that 10 out of 10 vegan women would say vegan men are sexier. If your partner isn’t vegan yet, worry not – there are many reasons, in addition to the ethical ones, that might convince him to go vegan. If you’re lucky enough to have hooked yourself one, go and tell your vegan man today why he’s so great. And if you happen to be a vegan man reading this, call me…
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